I finally learn to say No and Bye!

It was into me for all these years to keep on saying yes out of no reason to everyone for anything they asked and expect people to stay in touch. This caused me enough damage. But with time, I made a simple observation. That was, with time, people and circumstances change. This was followed by another remarkable observation. It was that despite of the times and changes which come, some still make it a point to stay in touch and be there forever. They also keep themselves relatively simple and would value you as much they would anyone else. These two observations made me think deeply on certain things.

After lot of thinking and discussing things with a few select people, I decided to learn to say No and Bye. This was a major turning point in my life. It took me sometime to adopt it, but today I can proudly say that yes, I have learned on how to say these two words. This step has sort of brought a significant change in my surroundings.

As an experiment, I decided to try this in a limited zone. Suddenly, I noticed a change in people’s behavior. Anyhow, that was expected. The best part is, I was able to control things around me. 🙂 And now, I extend the same thing to every aspect of my life. It is such an amazing thing to make choices 🙂

The idea behind this is very simple, focus on myself and people who matter to me. Help the eco system grow and make the dreams once dreamt into a reality.

This does not mean that I am gonna ditch anybody. It simply means that I will be myself again, completely! :). If anybody wants to go,try to sort out things. But even if they want to go, let them go…do not force them to be with you and part them a nice good bye. If anybody want’s to use you for any reason and you know that it is wrong for you, simply say No :).

I drew the inspiration from one of my friend who once explained me to filter out people and simply focus on myself so that I achieve my goals. The right people would get associated automatically. This is a tribute to you my dear friend. Thanks for showing me the right path. No matter I am starting late, I plan to cover it up soon :). On top of this advice, there were numerous incidents happening in my life from 2004 to 2012 that supported me to take such a nice decision. 🙂

I know that saying No and bye is not that simple. I just wish that like all of my intentions, these two words just add to the benefit of what I do without hurting anyone’s genuine sentiments.

Naturally, my behavior is certainly not ruled by this thought only. Lot of things go into making any decision or response. This is just a refinement to a certain part of me that helps me in being more practical than before.

Here I come!

Hello MPD, I am back blogging after say 1.5 years or so….Well I am out of my bad times…. it took me 5 years to fall and recover. So, I am back with full force and energy but I realized on one thing and that is relationships are the ultimate thing on this planet. You can go on achieving tons and tons of accolades but what is the use if there are broken or no relationships in life? Meaning, one must be winning the highest honor in his/her environment but what will they do if there is no one to celebrate around?

Such a question, I asked to myself. I have grown big and have a wonderful family with me but something is missing. I need a life partner and few good friends around me. Thanks to my bad time, I could not make new connections because I was more into myself. I did establish a few things but if I see them right now, they seem to be insignificant. This thought crossed me on March 01 and I have “Deactivated” myself from leading into such a life. Ironically, I discovered that sometime back want to say “I Love You” to someone but since I went to Mumbai and came back, I found out that maybe I would have been wrong. People who are meant for you stay with you in your up’s and downs, the person who understand you in and out. Anyhow, now that I realize this it is good as I start afresh with a clean mind and soul.

Life is an amazing journey. And I think I have just started travelling it again. I would love to be in a relationship, but that is something your destiny decides more than you. Anyhow, I have decided that from now on whatever I feel for anyone, I will let them know at the earliest. Because you never know when this journey ends :). So let me start this Journey! 🙂